DISQUS

emilyb · 6 months ago

Love the commentary! But to each their own... :-)

AmandaNatividad · 6 months ago

"Boston Strangler" -- that's hilarious!

You know what I never understood? Kissing on/in the ears. Yuck. It does nothing for me but make me feel like an anteater is about to attack.

Richard · 6 months ago

Great post...very informative and enlightening.

I didn't know about Furries before this. But now I'll never be able to go to a sporting event and look at a mascot the same way.

I think one thing I'll never understand is extreme role playing. How do you not laugh and stay in the mood when saying "hey I'm here to fix the cable tv" and the reply is "but I don't have cable tv"? Cue cheesy 70's music.

Regardless, to each his or her own I guess is the theme here. But we'll all know how your weekend was and laugh if you're wearing a nifty grizzly or panda vest next Monday.

Nicole McEwen · 6 months ago

Thanks, Richard! Yes, furries are kind of under the radar. Actually, there's a whole cult of people who wear furries not for erotic pleasure, but as a childlike hobby. They're similar to Trekkies, only they dress up like Tony the Tiger, Yogi Bear and Winnie the Poo. Some people never grow up... and that's OK, I guess.

Kat · 6 months ago

The bedroom one is a riot. We had a friend visit one day and he went in the bedroom and started rooting around in the drawers and nooks for sex toys~!! I was so flabbergasted, but in hindsight, I wish I had invited him back and hidden some handcuffs, vibrator and butt plug, and perhaps a porn video just to give him something to talk about. Of course, my kids probably would have found them first.

It's funny all the sex tips they give but not too often do I see an article on what actually turns a woman on in these silly magazines. Cosmo is the worst. I had to banish it from my home when my girls were young teens but it was still unnerving to see them reading it when they were 18 and the main article might be "How to go down and blow his mind." Sheesh. Can't they learn it the old fashioned way?

Nicole McEwen · 6 months ago

Hi Kat! I think we've all wondered what we'd find in our friend's nightstand drawers. But as far as rooting around right in front of you? Yikes! That's something you do when your friend, the homeowner, isn't watching!

And you're right - Cosmo reads like a sex manual (on how a woman can please a man). I think men's magazines should feature more articles about how to woo a woman, including proper date etiquette, etc. That may get to the root of bedroom problems, perhaps.

Theodora · 6 months ago

Great post...very informative and enlightening too! I think i'll put a pineapple with a furry boot at the end of my whip

Nicole McEwen · 6 months ago

Ha! Whatever winds your clock, Theodora! Being whipped with a pineapple slice won't hurt too much, I don't think, but the boot might.

Laura Gaffney · 6 months ago

The "Food as Sex Toys" just reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where George Costanza tries to add food as part of his sex life introducing a pastrami sandwich. He later hooks up with the woman Elaine is babysitting for because they both "find the pastrami to be the most sensual of all the salted cured meats" and go at it on the kitchen floor. That's all I got!

Nicole McEwen · 6 months ago

Yep, anything George Costanza is into is probably a turn-off to most people. Pastrami sex is no exception.

MS · 6 months ago

Totally thinking of that scene too...what about the "Crib Notes" episode? Where he writes the moves down on his hand.

Me · 6 months ago

PONY PLAY!

Gloria · 6 months ago

I've found the key to mixing pain into sex is to drive up arousal and keep the sex stim on during biting/sm/whatever as this fools the brain into stacking the sensations as purely sexual

Nicole McEwen · 6 months ago

Hi Gloria! Biting sounds much safer than strangulation.

Speaking of strangulation, investigators think David Carradine was engaging in an extreme kind of S&M called auto-erotic asphyxiation. They haven't ruled conclusively yet, but it seems likely. Is an out-of-body orgasm worth dying for? I sure don't think so!

Dee · 5 months ago

ok...so im into bondage ... it definately peaks your orgasm.

Ann · 5 months ago

I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds all those things funny and a bit creepy! To me it's just basic common sense that if sex hurts, you're doing it wrong.

Your bedroom sounds like mine, minus the curious cat and needy dog.

sex toys · 3 months ago

a little bit of pain is definitely an add-on to sex, sexy bedroom is not bizarre, in contrast, a little sexiness is completely ok

Adult Toys · 2 months ago

Definitely agree on the pleasure/pain principle. Also, there was a great Entourage episode slightly devoted to "furry sex" and it was something I never knew existed... lol.

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ME · 3 months ago

Yeh, anything not done out of mutual love and respect.
Definite labido killers and/or acts that make me want to be celibate:
1. Sex with anyone other than your lover: No threesomes, line-ups, etc.
2. PORN: Why would I want someone like THAT in MY bedroom, competing for MY lover's attention? Making me feel inadequate and oh so not-so-sexy! Definitely out.
3. Fantasy: Ok to fantasize about your lover and vice versa, but when someone else comes into the picture... see 1 & 2 above! If you want someone else... go be with that person, don't pretend that I'm her!
4. Role Play: Why would I want to pretend to be someone else? I want my lover to love ME. I can see MAYBE role play when you're not pretending to be someone else. So, in other words, when not copying something you've seen or read about, but like as a kid, you pretend to be a doctor, or a nurse, or a teacher, etc. YOU imagine yourself being these things, you're not pretending to be someone else.
5. Bondage/Pain, etc.: I agree...has no place in love-making.
6. Sex Toys: I don't really get into them. However, I can put up with some. I do enjoy vibrators to a point, a feather duster would be nice, etc. Toys if used, should be merely tools to enhance your sensations. They should not take on resemblance of other people... aka vibrators/dildos that look like penis', fake boobs, inflatables, etc. And should not take away the focus of connecting with your lover.
7. Anal sex: Why use that spot when I have a perfectly good spot right here?! One that feels good and doesn't make me feel like I'm going to the bathroom, or need to visit the ladies room.

That said, I am no prude, really. I enjoy loving sex with my partner, and enjoy pleasuring him & exploring new things together. Boundaries are good. Nothing demeaning, painful, disrespectful. There's still a LOT of room to have a LOT of fun!

latoyad · 2 months ago

Food as sex toys make me want to puke.... To each it's own but it is hard for me to have sex after dinner because I am full and sleepy. I could not imagine having food shoved down my throat in an attempt to turn me on.

Nicole McEwen · 2 months ago

Having sex on a full stomach... ick!

CHATTY1 · 2 months ago

FOOD AS SEX TOYS CAN BE FUN DEPEND ON WHAT TYPE OF FOOD IT IS AND WHAT U DO WITH IT. COME ON GIRLS, A SEVEN INCH CUCUMBER HUH, BOTH PLEASURE AND PAIN.

chriscicchelli · 1 month ago

God. Don't be such a prude. Most of what you listed requires an imagination and a chance not to take yourself so seriously.

And, it's obvious that this stuff doesn't turn you on. If it did, then you would be writing this list in a completely different way. But, many other perfectly healthy, sane men and women do practice these sexual acts.

You can have your opinion - if you don't like it, whatever. But, at least do some research and be a little open-minded. Couldn't you have interviewed people who do find these particular acts pretty sexy? That way you can gain some understanding, and (most importantly) your readers can gain understanding about these forms of alternative sexuality as well.